20/06/2023 -''Speak Up!" That's tough for me
- Reh Reflects
- Jun 20, 2023
- 2 min read
Speak up, I can't hear you, what did you say ? Please use your words , answer fast.... This is what most people sound like when they ask me a question.
Oh no ! I feel so confused in my head. My head feels jumbled, roughed up and anxious. Now I'm going to explain to everyone why I find it difficult to speak up-
Please wait it takes me long to understand a question, especially in a conversation. Reading the question is easier.
It takes me very long to think about my answer. When people say answer fast I feel more nervous and then I take longer to answer. I get so nervous that I forget the question and the answer. Then I say some irrelevant sentences.
People ask me questions very fast, This makes me forget the question and feel very odd and embarrassed.
Sometimes the questions are too long. I feel helpless and miserable.
Sometimes the questions are too loud. Mom and some of my teachers have a very loud voice. The loudness makes my ears hurt and I feel scared like they are shouting at me. I shut my eyes and I want to run away.
It's most difficult if it is a new person or someone I don't know well. At these times I feel shy and then I say irrelevant things which make me feel foolish. Then I tend to stick my tongue out or make funny faces to make a joke of it.
Mum speaks
There are always some amazing insights that surface when Reh writes about his difficulties. Very often thanks to the pace our daily packed schedules and shortage of time, as parents we tend to feel frustrated and see things from only our point of view. This piece is very informative for me and all the others who struggle with children unable to answer quickly or coherently. I am planning to make him write on strategies that would help him speak up. Do look out for the next piece shortly.
Hi Rehaan,
This is wonderful mindful shared by you for us the 'parents', as also the rest of the world. Tied down by our life full of challenges, most of the times, we miss out in understanding the true essence of your own, resulting in similar experiences we keep returning to all of you, our kids.
Your reflections keep taking me back to those days when you used to a very shy little bunny and here you are, with a great ability to express your feelings and your own perspectives about what the world has in store for you and many like you, including Rajdeep.
I am very proud of you as Rajdeep is and we look forward to sharing…
A reflection of thoughts so true and a pointer to those who interact to understand the correct approach and remember we too go through similar situations sometime in our lives . Well done Rehaan !!
Hi Rehaan, it's the beginning of a new year at school at Gateway this week. It was so refreshing to read a blog from you after long! It reminded me of our Language clubs and also my conversations with your mum. I loved how you explained what it feels like inside when people speak to you. I look forward to reading and learning more from your writing!